FREE! Negotiating consent
How to negotiate for the best scene and avoid consent violations
One of the most important areas of of rope, BDSM and, indeed, sexual activity in general is negotiating informed consent. In this tutorial, we will examine what this means and the various ways of doing this. There is no one way that is best, only one that is best for you and your partner on that occasion.
As it's not a perfect world, means of identifying the warning signs of abusive behaviour and reducing risk will be highlighted.
This will be a growing resource but as I'm keen to get what we have so far out there, here it is.
Esinem is a Japanese style bondage (shibari/kinbaku) artist who regularly appears at UK and international events. These have included Pride, Torture Garden, Erotica, Rubber Ball, Wasteland, Boundcon, Nuit Demonia and represented the UK at Japan's first international kinbaku event, Toubaku. He is also known for his teaching both in the UK and internationally and as co-organiser of the London Festival of the Art of Japanese Bondage and BOUND, Europe's premier monthly shibari event.
Over the years, he has been improving his skills in Japan with the help some of their best known and respected kinbakushi,
Arisue Go, Osada Steve, Kinoko Hajime, Kazami Ranki and, the late grand master of newaza, Yukimura Haruki. Whilst drawing from classical methods, his style is distinctive and epitomizes the art of communicating with rope, often departing from the typical serenity of shibari shows and flying in the face of tradition to produce some striking and unusual performances.
In addition, he has worked on various videos, e.g. Primal Scream's 2013, artistic collaborations and photo shoots both on and off camera. He has been involved in projects providing inspiration for Tom Ford's 2013 collection and, Raqib Shaw, an acclaimed artist who has exhibited at the Tate, Metropolitan and White Cube galleries.
He contributed to Rope, Bondage & Power, edited by Lee Harrington and been involved with a number of documentaries on kinbaku on various international TV channels. He is also author of the first English language tutorial DVDs: 'Japanese Rope Bondage: Tying people, not parcels' .
Frequently Asked Questions
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